All the ideas you have and things you are excited about for your wedding – the butterflies fluttering in your tummy at the thought of people enjoying themselves and the wedding wonderland you have both created. You simply can’t wait! You’re in love with your ideas and can envision, imagine it all.
And this is how it should be. You should feel this joy and excitement!
But you share some of your ideas, the little touches that make your wedding so pretty, beautiful and personal. You talk about the antique chandelier hanging from the huge old tree in the courtyard and the candles which float upon the beautifully lit pool at night which you’re all gathered around.
And you coming speeding back down to the Earth with an abrupt bump – because you’re speaking with such love and enthusiasm to a face of the complete opposite and you hear things like ‘what for’, and ‘in my day’ ….
Suddenly the happy people you pictured enjoying all the little touches, dancing under the stars and the tenderly lit courtyard – they all have that face. They are all unappreciative of how this wedding isn’t like every other they have been to. Or the efforts you have both gone to create this celebration.
Well to that I say good! You dream and you smile!
Get excited and creative! Feel inspired and full of butterflies!
And for those who don’t ‘get it’ you don’t need to let it bring you down from that beautiful fluffy little dream cloud either. You can instead keep things a suprise and don’t reveal too much about your plans – let people feel the wonderful atmosphere and all the details when it’s your wedding day! Because, not everyone has a great imagination and can understand what your ideas will be like in reality – but when they arrive to your wedding they will be in awe and appreciate how ‘you’ and unique it is. Let them enjoy it this way instead.
If you’ve already spilt the beans and had a reaction that has left you feeling really deflated and disappointed – don’t despair! I read recently about not sharing your big ideas with people who are not in the same area of expertise – because they won’t understand and they may try to discourage you, ultimately leaving you feel less confident or enthusiastic about your plans. Although this was about business – you can totally use it in this instance too!
Think about it:
- Has that person got the same taste as you?
- Have they spent the same amount of hours pouring over the same stylish wedding blogs and inspirations as you have?
Therefore – they aren’t in a position to appreciate your wedding day plans completely. They don’t have the same ‘expertise’ as you.
So, lift yourself up, go with your hearts and create a wedding which celebrates you both in a way which is totally you!
Have confidence, dream and enjoy it : )