Creativity and weddings – they go hand in hand. There’s endless inspiration everywhere and something to suit everyone’s different style, taste and personality.
Meshing both of your styles together to create your wedding – it can be a challenge, but ultimately it’s an awesomely fun project! When James and I first started to think about our wedding we had really different ideas – about every single thing!
I’d think about what my vision was, what I would like to do – and I guess I felt frustrated that he didn’t want the same things, or that his ideas were SO different to mine.
What I didn’t consider was this was a project for us both and about us both. A reflection of both our tastes and personalities! James and I have always had so many things in common, similar tastes and styles on most things. It was surprising that when it came to our wedding plans we couldn’t agree.
Whilst we were struggling to mesh this together for a while we did enjoy it! Part of the problem was that we are both very creative. We are both artists with backgrounds in design and art school. We both wanted to be the Art Director of our wedding!
So how do you find something you BOTH love? How do you create a wedding which is what you want and please each other?
1. Realise that this is a collaboration. This change in mindset is invaluable!
2. A lot of the time couples feel super stressed and overwhelmed because they are trying to please everyone and make every single person happy. The main people to be concerned about is each other. Don’t add any extra stress – it will of course take the fun out of it.
3. This final tip was beyond useful to us and really helped us to understand what each other wanted. It enabled us to bring together our ideas and create something totally ‘us’. not me, not James, but us. So, what we did was actually take some time to go through our favourite wedding influences and we would literally say – ‘I like that’ or ‘I don’t like that’.
Sounds so simple and kind of silly but this works! I gained a new insight and appreciation for James’ ideas and could see a pattern and similarities in both what he loved and what he didn’t like. James felt the same about my wedding inspirations too.
We want to know what your favourite influences are right now. A blog? A specific stylist? A particular genre? What do you love right now? We are going to be sharing ours with you soon too!