You may have a fantastic relationship with your Mother and enjoy involving her in your wedding plans. You may feel conflicted about doing things for your wedding to keep your parents happy but the truth is, you’d rather not. You may even have a pushy parent who is taking over your wedding completely and you’re despairing inside about it.
Couples often struggle with parents when they are planning their wedding. They have their ideas and you have yours. Your parents may want you to have a more traditional wedding, a ‘real’ church wedding, a wedding which every person related to you is invited ( even though some of them you’ve not seen since you were little ). Parents aren’t into Pinterest and may not even know what a blog is never-mind actually reading the likes of B.Loved and Wedding Sparrow for inspiration. So, sometimes they might not get it.
If you find that you are struggling with this situation between your parents wishes and your dream wedding, we have some tips which will help you to feel less stressed and enjoy both your planning and your wedding without feeling guilty or anxious about pressure or frictions.
1. Realise that your parents care. They may be worrying about costs and expense, they may be living out the dream wedding they wished for, they may be really excited to get involved and don’t even realise that they are taking over. Looking at it this way is far more positive and will really help you to feel lighter and less negative about the situation.
2. It’s about balance and compromise. Balancing between being involved without letting it overtake your wedding plans keeps everyone happy. You may give your Mother something to be in charge of and give her something to take care of which makes her feel involved and helpful, but at the same time you’re still in creative control of your wedding.
3. Make them feel special! You could arrange to do something really special and exclusive just between you and your Mum. Make her feel wanted and involved and share an experience just the two of you. It could be dress fittings, a pamper for just the two of you closer to your wedding day, or perhaps a special day together to find your wedding fragrance and makeup! You’ll both enjoy it!
4. If you’re struggling with parents who are too enthusiastic and overtaking your wedding day plans, these tips above will help to include them whilst setting some boundaries. You can even explain how important it is for you both as a couple to create a wedding which reflects you – even Kim Kardashian had to do this with her Mother Kris on more than one occasion.
5. If you struggle with parents who don’t get your vision for your wedding, why not create a moodboard or scrap book of your ideas and inspirations to share with them? They will be able to understand and be far more excited for you!
I hope these tips help you, I really hope you don’t even need them and you are just in a dream land of ideas, planning and excitement which are supported by those around you. If not, know that you really are not alone! Be confident in you both planning a wedding which is totally you, don’t have regrets or guilt, and be considerate to why parents may be less excited or supportive. Keeping positive and taking steps to move forwards is always good.